We all are accustomed to changes in behaviour. Sometimes we are happy and cheerful, and at other times, we are sad and gloomy. However, some seem to always be unhappy.
Unhappy or sad people not only tamper their peace of mind but also that of those around them. Nothing makes them happy or even a little bit better.
An unhappy person finds flaws in anything and everything, no matter what. These set of people are usually pessimistic and often have defining and noticeable character traits. It is hoped that if you find that you have one or more of these traits, you will take note and make moves to change.
1. Do not accept change :
Living in denial is bad. Not accepting that things have changed in your life or that of others would keep you unhappy and unable to move on.
You will be suck in a loop of unhappiness till you are able to accept things for what they currently are. Be it relocating to some different city or being in a financial crisis, if you don’t accept what your current situation is (no matter how toxic the situations seems), you are never going to find ways to solve your problems.
Is your life exactly the same as it was 5 years ago? No, but you need to take stock so you can know what has changed, by how much, and if you have accepted it.
2. Too critical of themselves and other people :
Being self-aware and critical is healthy but only to an extent. If it becomes too much, it only leads to dissatisfaction and unhappiness.
This criticism mostly sometimes comes in the form of comparisons between you and others or others and others. Sometimes, this is not fair on you or others and can make you feel like you are not progressing.
Excessive self-criticism should not be mistaken for a drive for perfection. It is like mistaking obsession for love. They are not the same.
3. Stop trying to be who you are not :
Do not have aims
The 20s are demanding as it is a period of intense work and trying to figure how who we are, a career path, our finances, and more. It is a stage where a large number of mistakes we will as adults are made.
Navigating this period demands at least a rough sketch of a plan. This doesn’t mean that you should plan every single day of your life but there should be a broad outline of who, what, and where you want to be. There should be an element of surprise left for your life.
Not having a plan or aim in life can create monotonous patterns and engender thoughts of failure and unhappiness.
4. Hold negative beliefs :
Have you ever met somebody who’s simply negative about every aspect of their life? Be it their perspective on life or reaching a certain level, these kinds of people have no iota of optimism.
The inability to see the good or positives make such people constantly grumpy and unhappy. Till they get past this, things will always look bleak.
5. Expect the worst from others :
This point ties in with the above about pessimism. Due to some people’s inability to see the good in things, they are also unable to see the good in others. They assume no one will do them a kindness.
It is normal for one to not have expectations of those you are not friends with. However, no one should expect the worse from EVERYBODY. Having an attitude like this will leave one unhappy and without friends.