Self-confidence is not something that you just have, it is something built over time. The most confident person in a room did not become like that in one day. Self-confident people have to work on themselves, their appearance, their conduct, and the way they speak. The first thing they do is have a positive image of themselves. This involves knowing, accepting, and working on their flaws/shortcomings.
Being self-confident is a great quality to have. It helps you in job interviews, when you meet new people, and when you want to start something of your own. As time passes by, these set of people imbibe the habits herein discussed.
1. They say yes only when they mean it :
Saying yes to everything will make you come over as a pushover. When you say yes to a task or favour you would rather not do, you not only burden yourself, you also increase your likelihood of giving up.
Saying yes only to things you want to do make you confident enough to say no to things you think are unnecessary.
2. They use positive words in their conversations :
Confident people believe the world is their oyster and go at it expecting things to fall in place. Their attitude to work and life is very obvious in how they speak and what they say. They are usually forthright and very positive because of the belief they have in themselves and their abilities. Wouldn’t you find such a personality extremely appealing?
Having only positive things to say and not bringing anyone else down says a lot about how confident you are. Confident people never hesitate to compliment others and conversations with them leaves one extremely upbeat and inspired.
3. They are clear about their goals :
Confidence leaves no room for doubts. A confident person understands that having well-defined goals is very important.
At the same time, s/he only shares these plans on a need-to-know basis and only after being sure it is what s/he wants to do. Confident people usually have a plan of action, work hard, and create opportunities for themselves.
4. They do not care about sounding stupid
Often, when asked for an opinion, most people shy away because they do not want to sound stupid. Don’t let the fear of judgment stop you from raising your voice and giving your opinion.
5. They see failure as an opportunity :
Confident know and understand a universal truth: failures are a part of life. In one way or the other, life is going to hit you with a curveball and you would lose something you thought was a sure bet.
It is pretty normal to feel sad about a wasted opportunity but the most important thing is to learn from it.
6. They never compare their journey to others :
We have our paths, obstacles, situations, and responses to those situations. It is simply a waste of time to compare your journey with that of someone else’s! The grass always seems greener on the other side and there’s no denying the fact that comparison can be destructive and de-motivating.
Rather than comparing, keep track of your own progress and try to overcome what you’re currently facing. This is truly one of the healthiest ways to grow.
7. They are willing to learn :
Confidence comes from knowledge and knowledge is a byproduct of learning. You can’t learn new things if you have an “I know everything” attitude.
The most confident person in the room does not know it all and s/he knows this. To cover for that, s/he never shies away from learning something new.
Everything you master was new to you once. The more you learn, the more you know, and the more confident in your abilities you will become.
These habits and characteristics of confident people are worth imbibing and sharing with others. It might take a bit of time, but you can also be that confident person taking charge of a room or meeting.