People believe that long distance relationships are hard to maintain. Some even claim it is impossible. There is even a chance your friends and relatives would suggest you do not take such a relationship serious.
Well, I am not saying it is going to be easy. Things get complicated, and communication gaps start occurring. On the other hand, the distance might help as absence does make the heart grow fonder. You appreciate the little things more and each meet feels like the first time.
As difficult as it might seem, following the below-mentioned rules can help you maintain that long distance relationship; it really isn’t rocket science.
1. See It As an Opportunity :
The first thing to change is your mindset. Do not view a long distance relationship as one that is pulling you and your partner apart. Instead, think of it as an opportunity to grow.
See it as a chance for both of you to deepen the bond you share as you both work through things.
Like the saying goes, “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart”.
2. Set Your Commitment Level Beforehand :
If you are going to be in a long distance relationship, make sure that you guys are clear about the expectations that you have of each other, so that nobody is surprised by something new.
For instance, are you two exclusive? Is it alright for the other person to go on dates? It’s better to be open with each other about all these things.
3. Communicate :
Yes, always communicate. Do not allow for communication gaps. Do not leave things to be assumed. Because such gaps are filled and usually by the wrong conclusions which eventually lead to a separation.
So, check in on each other daily. Give and ask for updates about the going-ons in your partner’s life. All these while making sure to provide support and not forget important dates and occasions.
4. Don’t Keep Secrets :
Know your partner. Know what sets him/her off and then avoid it. If, for instance, you know s/he is not comfortable with you being with your ex-lover, then do not see them.
Do not see them and then hide the details. Either you tell them beforehand so you both can talk about it or don’t do it. Don’t be careless about this sort of matter because the distance would make your partner extra suspicious, and of course, very upset because you are putting him/her in a position where he/she feels helpless.
5. Do Similar Things :
Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc. to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics in common to talk about.
6. Avoid Excessive Communication :
There is such a thing as excessive communication. You have to be mindful of this especially in this age where keeping in touch is so easy. It is not necessary for you to call each other every hour and know each and everything like when are they eating, bathing or going out.
Don’t get too clingy as, as time goes by, it might come across as being too suspicious and not trusting.
7. Know eEach Other’s Schedules :
When you are away from each other, you might feel that your timings never match. It’s better to know when the other person is busy and when he/she is free so that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time.
You wouldn’t want to disturb your partner when s/he is in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting.
8. Meet Each Other Whenever You Can :
There is a saying, “out of sight, out of mind”. So, visit each other whenever you can. After all the waiting, you finally get to meet each other to fulfil all the little things like kissing, holding hands, etc. which are common for all other couples but so very special and extra intimate for people in long distance relationships.
9. Spend Time With Friends And Family :
I have seen many people who have this habit of sticking to their phones, not going out anywhere with their friends, just because they are in a long distance relationship.
Your partner is not going to be available all the time to talk to you, so go and hang out with your friends. Plan trips for your family. This way you won’t feel lonely.